Hysterical Bonding

is a real thing.  

Seriously. 

It's basically fucking each other's brains out after the affair has been outed.

When I found out about my husband's affair, the last thing I wanted to do was have sex with him.  Instead, I was relieved to have an excuse to file for divorce.  Our marriage had been for all intents and purposes, dead for a few years, although we continued to have a physical relationship.  Quite frankly, we always had decent sex, even when we couldn't stand each other.  Emotional connections however were conspicuously missing.  

Early one morning, about a month after the affair was exposed, after the STD testing, after the brutal battling, we sat down and really talked.  The conversation lasted several hours with a lot of soul searching, honesty, tears and apologies. The animosity and anger, was turning into understanding .  We not only spoke to each other, we listened.  It was emotional and exhausting.  I went in the bedroom to lie down and take a nap and shortly after my husband came in the room.  He asked if he could lay down with me and I said yes. He held me and it felt really good.  He kissed me and to my surprise, I responded.  One thing led to another and we spend the entire afternoon in bed.  

Fast forward seven months later.  The sex has been incredible, more intense, more emotional than the honeymoon stage of our relationship 25 years ago. Neither of us can get enough. It is absolutely insane.  Completing our daily routine tasks counts as a major accomplishment on some days. A two or three day timeframe with no sex is a rarity, but two or three times a day is nothing unusual. 

We have questioned our inner porn star at least 100 times. It's crazy, sometimes interferes with work but has been overall incredible.  But what the fuck is going on? I've turned into a nymphomaniac and he's just as guilty of the same.  A month ago, I finally googled increased sex after an affair.  (How did we ever survive before Google?)  I discovered article after article on this phenomenon called Hysterical Bonding.  

Hysterical bonding is quite common I've learned. The dozens of articles I've read are equally positive and negative.  Most of the opinions I've read are categorized below:

-  Hysterical bonding has been compared to an animal marking it's territory, taking back what's yours.

-  Sex is a stress reliever and lets face it, the aftermath of an affair can be extremely stressful.

-  Another article labeled it a 'pick me' dance, and called it a humiliation for the betrayed partner.  This article referred to the increased sexual drive as a competition initiated by the betrayed spouse to 'win' back the cheater.  The article criticized the betrayed spouse for rewarding the cheater with sex and was frowned upon by the writer.

- I also read several blog posts written by women who experienced hysterical bonding. They confessed to engaging in wild sex several times a day, experimentation with different positions and in various new locations they had never tried in the past. Some reported outings to the local erotica stores and bringing brown paper bags full of goodies home. Fucking like porn stars was one of the analogies mentioned as was fucking like rabbits.

- Multiple women have asked for a definitive time period on how long hysterical bonding lasts. They detail anywhere from 3 months to a year, although some women have admitted to two years and counting .  Then there is also the question many inquired as to whether is it still considered hysterical bonding after a long period of time?

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I never completed this post from back in May. My husband had two herpes outbreaks which the initial STD testing didn't reveal. There was a brief interval from the crazed sex, replaced by nasty fights and renewed mistrust from the exposure of his lie, however once the herpes cleared up, we were back to the hyper sex, talking about it, recapping the night before, and texting about our upcoming intentions.  We are two days from the anniversary of D-day...

I am still hurting.  I cannot fathom any excuse for what he did.  I hate him so much on occasion even though I love him. I am devastated that the person I trusted the most, betrayed me.  So why is the sex still so good? 

Is it still hysterical bonding?  Have you experienced this phenomenon yourself after discovering your partner's affair? How long does it last?

Please share your thoughts/experience with me regarding hysterical bonding as this is truly confusing to me...