My Story...

It was a exactly a year ago when my husband of 17 years (25 together) took a 30 year friendship with a woman he'd known before he even met me to the next level. While prior to that he never was romantically interested in her, a breakdown of our marriage caused him to take the easy way out and begin an affair with her, rather than working on our marriage.  

I have a lot of resentment and well, pure hatred for the 'skank'. Yes, I know it was my husband's choice, HIS decision. But this woman had been working behind the scenes for years. She always fancied my husband as her 'one that got away', the one 'you've always loved since the moment you met them'. She has a bit of a fatal attraction mentality and is on a litany of crazy pills for her mental conditions. She abuses recreational drugs and alcohol. (What was my husband thinking?)

When I found out, I filed for divorce. When he was faced with the divorce, he didn't want to leave and we've been working on a reconciliation.

We both acknowledge the problems in our marriage. We BOTH share the blame.  I maintain he took the weak way out. He is usually a very moral guy with a lot of integrity and refers to the affair as the one big mistake in his life.

Rebuilding trust after an affair is difficult. It is a rocky road. Not everyone has the stomach for it and truth be told, I had always been one of those people that said if you cheat, that's it. I guess it's easy to say, but when it happens to you, it is not so cut and dry. A 25 year history together is not so easy to just throw away and we have two children to consider as well.

In order to deal with the pain and the indescribable anger, I took to writing. My blog is an outlet for me to let out some of the anger and frustration. I don't censor myself and some may not like the language I've used in some of my posts.

My views are not necessarily the views of others. I appreciate and welcome alternate opinions, but please keep it respectful.

I welcome you to interact with me on the blog, it is so helpful to hear from those of you who have experienced similar situations. It is also inspiring to hear of successful outcomes as I still am navigating through this process.

xoxo Dolly